Monday, September 29, 2008

how do you know?

Today I received a call from an intelligent woman who has run a marathon before. She read an article I wrote- visited my website and decided she may like to have a doula. I was super excited to hear from her. But then as we talked I was sad about some of the information her doctor had given her. Since she has somehow bought that she has a low tolerance for pain- which I doubt if she is a long distance runner- and would need an epidural. But she was open to considering she may not. I asked her how she would know what she may need in labor since she had never been in labor before. But her doctor had told her that the hospital childbirth class was really geared to women who wanted a natural birth- which I also doubt since most hospital educators are required to teach a certain curriculum that the anesthesia and obs approve. But since she was considering using an epidural, her doctor told her that the class would be useless to attend.

So, now instead of having a full range of options available to make an informed decision- she has been limited to the books she has read. I was delighted she had found a good one- Pregnancy, Birth and the Newborn by Simkin. But it made me sad when she commented that she wanted to choose what was best for her and her baby... and somehow had come to believe that may be an epidural. I discussed that she needed to understand the risks of all of the decisions she would make in labor.

She is considering a private class with me. I do not have a problem with the choice of an epidural, but when it is the only option you have- you have little options. I believe in full informed consent. Women trust their doctors to guide them- in the best interest of the baby and them... when did "learn all you can about all of your options" not become the best way to guide someone in an area that is unknown like birth? When did it not become about helping a woman empower herself?

I hope she attends my private class- I will at least know then that she is making informed decisions that are the right ones for her- instead of the ones the doctor chooses for her.

Wednesday, September 3, 2008

Interference

I was thinking about my blog regarding my niece's birth and I felt the need to clarify some things. Women need to make informed decisions about their births. Their births will be affecting them the rest of their lives... that experience is paramount according to the studies on how they will mother that infant and see themselves as strong or weak later on.

A woman is not classified in active labor until she is dilated to three centimeters and contracting regularly- stronger, longer and closer together. Usually that means at least an hour of contractions lasting at least a minute for at least an hour. Now I don't know what my niece's labor was like. But I do know that the studies show that when a mom stays at the hospital with her water intact and under 3 centimeters dilated, she increases her chances of a cesarean by 30%. So the intervention train is boarded- after all, you are at the hospital to have the baby. So, their job is to help you get the job done. What? At what cost?

A woman making a decision to have her water broken and have an epidural and get pitocin is her right. But did she know the risks? Did anyone tell her that cord prolapse could occur? That epidurals drop a mom's blood pressure and therefore the babies? Do you realize that when all of a sudden they need to continually monitor you that means there is some risks associated with that procedure? But moms are not told those risks many times. And without a childbirth class to educate her- she is likely to not have understood the options going into labor.

Many times even the childbirth educators are forced when they work for the medical model to teach certain things without telling the whole truth. Their jobs are at risk otherwise. It is a hard choice to work for someone who builds your curriculum for you and makes you hold to it. There are teachers who seem to give homework and encourage folks to find the truth out on their own though.

One bottle of formula may not seem like it is tragic. But if you read this you will understand it is a tragic situation: http://www.drjaygordon.com/development/bf/supplement.asp

My neice was told prior to being discharged after only two days that she did not have enough milk to satisfy her son. Why would a mom have any milk before day three? If a baby needed formula or milk during those first three days then God would have given the mom the ability to make milk quicker. The baby's stomach is only the size of a marble! Colostrum is so wonderful- in and of itself to fill that small void and provide the rich wealth of antibodies that newborn needs. So why is it that a mom instead of getting proper help to breastfeed instead is given totally untrue information? And why is it that most new moms feel they are not the authority and some medical staff member knows best?

Where was the lactation specialist who could teach her to properly latch her baby- to keep him at her breasts skin to skin so to enhance her milk production? But we can not make the whole responsibility the medical staffs. We have to see that women need to take back their births and babies. We spend more time planning our weddings than we do planning our births and newborn experiences. And as a society we must start sharing more truth. The women of the seventies having natural births need to be sharing our experiences with the younger women- letting them know it is a lie that you don't get a prize for natural births- you most certainly do!

The prize is a healthier mom- the recovery is wonderful- the baby is more alert and nurses better. The breasts don't have edema issues from the long use of an IV with fluids- neccessary with epidurals- and the nipples are ready to be nursed from. The labors are more active certainly but that activity helps facilitate a baby's movement down and out- with less episiotomies, forceps, vaccum and most certainly less ceasarean births.



If nursing moms were more accepted in our society... if we saw more moms nursing their babies in public.. then women would see that as natural and normal. The talks amoung women regarding what helped their babies nurse well and the normalcy of the nursling and mom would be discussed. So, we must take some responsibility as well.

It is sad that women don't understand the truth- don't know their options- without knowing their choices they have no choices at all.

Tuesday, September 2, 2008

instinctive vs compliance

My niece had a baby this weekend. She considered childbirth classes late in the game I am guessing since she told my sister she could not find a class- they were all full... So she went into labor- sorta- lost her plug and her doctor listened to her breathe on the phone and said come in. But she was only 1.5 cm dilated so they had her walk... eventually they put her on the medical roller coaster- not sure what happened when but she had her water broken, had an epidural and got pitocin I am sure. Well thank the dear Lord, she did end up with a vaginal birth. She told my sister she was sure the nurses would help her in her labor. She originally thought she would go natural. She was unprepared and did not.

Nursing was not going smoothly- so since she also did not take any breastfeeding preparation class, she again told my sister that she was sure the nurses would help her. Well- they convinced her on day two after the birth that she did not have enough milk. They encouraged her to give the baby some formula. Then one nurse told her that was a good thing since she obviously was not causing the baby to be full and he had been screaming! So, although her plan was to breastfeed, the formula is something she now sees as the thing that her baby will need due to her deficiency.

She felt this would all come naturally- instinctively. It does when you are around women birthing naturally- you grow up around it- you see your cousin birth naturally- you see your friends do so. But when you have never seen a normal, natural birth- then it is not instinctive any more. The media and medical model has done a great job of redefining normal birth. Indeed she had a normal birth!

She felt breastfeeding would just come naturally- instinctively. It does when you are surrounded by women feeding their nurslings. But I bet she has never seen a woman breastfeed. So, I am sad for her.

I am not judgmental at all. I totally understand the fallacy she fell into. She believed that the medical staff would only offer her things that were best for her and her baby. They failed her. But she also has to take responsibility. Classes that teach you choices are essential if you are to have any choices at all. Seeing women nursing their babies and hearing about how they overcame difficulties is important. That is why I loved La Leche League. Shoot her mother in law- my sister- nursed four babies after giving birth normally and naturally. But she was banned to the waiting room.

We need to help women find the questions they need to ask and then encourage them to find the answers that are right for them. I am afraid this is not what my neice did. She did not know the questions to ask- she did not have any answers and she believed in the medical model protecting her and her baby. Sadly who suffers? We all do. Society suffers since this baby is subject to more illness and possibly a lower IQ than would have been possible- ten points according to the studies. The parents do- they do not realize how rewarding the different choices would have offered them. The mom could have reduced her chances of osteoporosis and breast cancer. And the little man suffers for many reasons.

Could this have been avoided? Yes- but unfortunately the importance of these classes and the preparation needed to help her succeed in her initial choices were not impressed upon her. It makes me sad.

I am sure that this little boy will be great. I am sure his parents will be awesome parents. I am just sad that they will not even understand the things that were missed.